Proud To Be A Filipina

When I was growing up, I never saw myself as beautiful. Beautiful meant being curvy, having fair complexion, a firm nose, and light colored hair and eyes. I, on the other hand, was skinny, possessed straight black hair and dark eyes.My nose was small and as flat as a button. And I had no curves.

I was born and raised in the Philippines, a country in Southeast Asia which was a colony of both Spain and America sometime ago. Both cultures had a great impact on Filipino life, and in almost every aspect of daily living, there is evidence of Western presence. And just like any other country that had been colonized ,people have feelings of inferiority where “white” always equates to beauty.

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So growing up, I wasn’t exactly a standout from the crowd. No guy ever told me that I was beautiful. The campus heartthrobs were always the fair skinned ones who were usually the offspring of an interracial union. Even the boy that I had a longtime crush on was half-white himself.

Later in life , I learned to accept myself for who I was and make the most of it. I realized that I didn’t need to have fair skin to be considered beautiful .That my long , black hair and tanned skin can look very flattering on an off-shouldered top.

I discovered that being skinny wasn’t so bad at all. I could fit into and wear fashions like low-cut, skinny jeans. And my small nose ? At least it doesn’t stand out from the rest of my small face.

I also learned why sites like friendly.ph are very popular amongst western men .And this is because they find Filipina women very attractive.

I guess it is simply human nature to want something we don’t have and each race has physical features that they ought to be proud of.  Filipinas have a unique beauty of their own. And I am proud to be a Filipina.

The True Meaning Of The Word

At around 10.00am everyday, my co worker Steffi and I take our smoke breaks outside the building where we work for .

We both work for date in asia.com, a popular Asian dating service that gives advice on how to get your lover back after a breakup and we were always on the lookout for a guy named Kim, a cute Chinese guy who takes his breaks just about the same time as we do.

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We immediately spotted him outside , so I positioned myself  atop the stairs , just a few steps above him ( so I can closely scrutinize his cute Asian features ).

I noticed some guys sitting on the steps below me . And one of them was sporting a weird Afro hairdo .I have nothing against guys who have that same type of “do”, but they are simply not my type.

I was lost in thought, thinking how good Kim looked in his shirt and dark slacks  when I suddenly heard  Steffi yell .

She had spilled  coffee on Kim’s immaculate white shirt ! I almost jumped out of my skin , taken by surprise and dropped my cigarette on Mr. Afro guy’s hair …

The smell of burning hair wafted in the air while I desperately tried to extract the burning cigarette that had found it’s way inside the jungle that was Mr. Afro guy’s hair.

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I could hear a few snickers and giggles in the background.

Luckily ,  it didn’t burn his scalp . I apologized profusely to the guy but had to run because my breaktime was almost over .

A few days later , after returning from another break , my co-workers informed me that there was a guy looking for me earlier . I asked them who it was and they pointed to a guy walking towards me .

It was Mr. Afro guy himself .Now sporting a half-shaved look .

” Excuse me , are you Isla ? ” he asked .

“Yes , I am “. I replied .

“I need to speak with you for a few ” he said .

“Why , what is it about ?”

” We’re in the process of creating a new  team , and you’re part of my team “.” I am your new supervisor “he said , with a smug look on his face .

Only then did I fully understand  the true meaning of the word FVCKED.

Why Asian Women Join Dating Sites

A lot of people are leery of women from Southeast Asia who join popular online dating sites like date of asia.com , because they think that majority of those women are scammers.

Well, some of them probably are, but heck, scammers are everywhere, not just on Asian dating sites.

Some of them though, are seeking true love , and most often, they are looking for greener pastures at the other side of the fence .

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Unfortunately some Asian countries have weak economies and there’s less hope for these women to improve their quality of life. A long period of recession, high unemployment, and inflation ultimately, has made their lives more difficult.

And just like everybody else , they also expect  to prosper and have a decent, healthy way of life.

This is the major  reason why these Asian ladies would seek lovers  from overseas , foreign men from affluent  western countries like America, Europe, Canada and Australia, rather than marry a local man.

They all have in mind that marrying a foreigner will make their life change for the better.

They choose not to remain poor for the rest of their lives.

And in my humble opinion, there is nothing wrong with this set-up. For as long as there is a mutual agreement  and understanding between the man that will give her security and a better future, then why the hell not ?

It doesn’t mean that there’s no love at the end of the road.
After all, who can say that love isn’t sweeter when you have plenty of food in the fridge, your kids have decent education, wear decent clothes, and that every new day is a happy day to spend with a loving  husband.